52 Weeks of Blogging: I said I would never...

So as you know it is Monday so I am doing another link up with Becky from over at From Mrs. to Mama.  She started a great idea this year with one guided post each and every Monday and I have had so much fun participating so far.  This week the topic is I said I would never....

I am interpreting this to mean that these are things I had always said I would never do as a mom, but for one reason or another I went back on my word.

1.  We would never have kids.  

Now as some of my long time readers know we were told we would have a lot of difficulty getting pregnant, and despite all of that we got pregnant without trying.  I think I had really only said this to cover up my being upset about the whole situation.

2.  I would never use formula.

Having gone through nursing school, it has been drilled into my brain that breast is best.  It was the running joke in my family, since I am so well rounded in the chest area, that I would have enough milk to feed a small country.  I was truly believing it myself.  And then Alex came, he was in the NICU and 5 floors and a very long walk away.  Getting there every two hours was easy during the day, however very hard at night.  If there is anything I can attest to postpartum, for me at least I hurt so much more at night. Topping it all off, Alex had a lot of difficulty latching, and despite the help of lactation consultants we could not accomplish a sufficient latch.  So we turned to bottles with pumped milk, however I didn't produce enough and in order to supply Alex we had to supplement.  There is still so much more I want to say on this topic so I forsee a future post about this soon.

3.  I would never co-sleep.

I was one of those nightmare children who slept with my parents, on the floor by their bed, during storms or whenever I had a bad dream until I was in my pre-teen years.  I was hell bent on it not happening with Alex, however it did, it was better for all of us.

4.  I would never use the word no or get frustrated with my kids.

HAHA!  What was I thinking.  Never using the word no was a pretty lofty goal on my part.  Now I must say it is my personal goal to not use it very often, I try to distract or find better ways to explain things but there are times when No is the only word that will work.  And as far as never getting frustrated, I am not perfect and my son is me recreated and therefor is very defiant.  This too is a work in progress.  Lets just say I am learning to pick my battles as to what is off limits and what is not and also how to close my eyes, breathe and count to 10.

5.  I would never be that mom with a crying baby in a restaurant. 

Lets face it, every mom has been there.  In our case it has not been in a restaurant, yet, but it has been at the grocery store.  Alex is just not yet at that age where I can correct him or for that matter stop him from crying if he is mad.  Now don't get me wrong, I make every effort to calm him, but I am sure you understand what I mean, it's the throw my head back, hold my breath, I am so angry right now crying.  

There just comes a point where you have to decide am I going to put food on the table or leave because he is mad I took away the toy he threw on the ground 6 times.  I do my best to explain to him that it is wrong, wait 5 minutes, which he usually stops crying in 2 minutes, and give it back to him.  If he does it again then we restart the cycle.  And as far as the nasty looks from other shoppers, lets just say I can give hateful looks right back, I am sure you were in the same situation once ladies and gents I am positive you did the same thing as a child or even made your mom feel just as embarrassed during your childhood.

Now I really can't think of anything else.  I am sure some moms would say things about having messy kids or even making their own baby food but that never struck me as important.  To me being messy as a child means you are having fun and making memories, and I don't about you all but I ate baby food from a jar with a smiling baby on the side and I turned out just fine.

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